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The Sandhills Crisis Intervention Program is committed to:
Here's a list of some of the most common services we provide. If you have a confidential question or topic you would like to have addressed, please contact us.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please dial 911.
If You Leave
Please remember, leaving does not mean your partner will stop being abusive. In fact, he/she may become more abusive as you attempt to leave. He/she may be so afraid of "losing" you that he/she will increase any threats to hurt you, the children or himself/herself. You are the best judge of how dangerous your situation may become if you attempt to leave.
You may also feel overwhelmed by financial concerns - including where you will live and how you will afford to take care of yourself and your children. Thinking about economic survival can be discouraging and frightening. The Sandhills Crisis Intervention Program can help you sort through the many challenges you have ahead and can help you get the emotional and financial support you may need.
If you have made a decision to leave permanently, allow yourself to feel the natural grief at the loss of your relationship. No matter how bad it was, there were good things too, and it was a very important part of your life. Leaving is often a process. Many people who have been battered leave and return several times before permanently separating from the relationship. Be patient with yourself.
You may feel emotions of loss, sadness, and depression. Accept these feelings as natural and allow yourself to experience them. If you find yourself thinking, "I'm stupid to care after what I've been through" or "I shouldn't feel this way", remind yourself, "it's okay for me to be feeling this way now."
Building a strong support system is essential when freeing yourself from a violent relationship and when making a healthy transition to being a survivor.
This support system could include:
You have been strong enough to keep your family together under difficult circumstances. Now, with the help of a support system you can become strong enough to build a life without violence.
While there are certainly many additional questions and considerations you may face while you decide to stay or leave, these are a beginning. It may also be helpful to list the positives and negatives, or pros and cons of both staying and leaving. Questions other women/men have asked are:
If You Stay
Contact The Sandhills Crisis Intervention Program, or the domestic violence/sexual assault program in your area. We can provide emotional support, peer counseling, safe emergency housing, information, and other services while you are in the relationship, as well as if you decide to leave.
Remember that you can change your mind and decide to leave at any time. Choosing to stay may seem like the best option to you now, but if that changes, do not hesitate or feel guilty. You have a right to change your mind!
• According to the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, nearly 1 in 5 women have been raped in their lifetime while 1 in 71 men have been raped in their lifetime.
• In 2008, there were 203,830 victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault in the United States. That averages to approximately 1 every 2.5 minutes.
• Most sexual assaults (more than 69%) are committed by someone the victim knows.
• Nearly one-third of rape victims will develop stress disorders as a direct result of the assault at some point in their lifetime. This in turn increases their risk for serious alcohol and drug abuse problems.
• Nearly 60% of all sexual assaults are never reported to the police.
• Intimate partner stalkers are more likely to re-offend than other stalkers and tend to be more dangerous.
• Intimate partner stalkers frequently approach their targets and escalate in frequency and intensity of pursuit. They insult, interfere, threaten, and are more violent.
• Virtually all intimate partner stalkers re-offend, and do so more quickly than other groups of stalkers.
• 76% of Intimate partner femicide victims have been stalked by their intimate partner.
• 89% of femicide victims who had been physically assaulted had also been stalked in the 12 months before their murder.
• 79% of abused femicide victims reported being stalked during the same period that they were abused.
• In the United States, one in three adolescent girls is a victim of physical, emotional, or verbal abuse from a dating partner.
• 4% of teens agreed that it’s okay for someone to hit their partner if they really did something wrong or embarrassing.
• 25-35% of teens equate jealousy, possessiveness and violence with love.
• 57% of teens know someone who has been physically, sexually, or verbally abusive in a dating relationship.
• Only 33% of teens who were in an abusive relationship ever told anyone about the abuse.
• Victims of dating abuse are not only at increased risk for injury, they are also more likely to engage in binge drinking, suicide attempts, physical fights, and currently sexual activity.
• Research demonstrates an association between teen dating violence and lower grade point averages.
• 81% of parents surveyed either believe teen dating violence is not an issue or admit they don’t know if it’s an issue.
• Girls and young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence - almost triple the national average.
• Violent behavior typically begins between the ages of 12 and 18.
• The severity of intimate partner violence is often greater in cases where the pattern of abuse was established in adolescence.
• About 72% of eighth and ninth graders are “dating".
• Nearly 1.5 million high school students nationwide experience physical abuse from a dating partner in a single year.
• One in three adolescents in the U.S. is a victim of physical, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner, a figure that far exceeds rates of other types of youth violence.
• One in 10 high school students has been purposefully hit, slapped or physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend.
• One quarter of high school girls have been victims of physical or sexual abuse.
• Approximately 70% of college students say they have been sexually coerced.
NO MORE Campaign
VAWnet: National Online Resource Center on Violence Against Women
National Sexual Violence Resource Center
National Resource Center on Domestic Violence
National Network to End Domestic Violence
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Love is Respect/National Teen Dating Helpline
National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma and Mental Health
Verizon Hope Line
Provides cell phones to survivors of violence to keep them connected to key organizations for safety and support.
Substance Abuse & Mental Health Information
GLBT Intimate Partner Violence
Children/Teens and Violence
Pets and Domestic Violence
People of Color and Violence
If You Leave
If You Stay